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I’m a 20 year old skinny white upper class WASP male, I want to learn how to become scary and intimidating to manipulative people but still keep my friendly and charming personality if there’s such a thing.
The way I was raised was very non confrontational and very spoiled. My parents didn’t even make that much money but whether they were trying to or not they raised a high social status WASP type child (who is me).
My parents made sure I got my way at all times, I was the priority of their life from about ages 0-7 until they divorced and we became poor and they unfortunately turned to drugs and the low life where I got to watch my mother become a low status bartender addicted to drugs and we moved into just the most lovely 90% low income Hispanic community!
But even during those dark times the rules between both households were I get my way at all times and if I don’t get my way I can just complain to my parents until they give in. They were nice, friendly, non confrontational people with excellent social skills, too bad drugs literally made them think being around dirty Mexicans in the ghetto was how to live your life.
On a social status level, I am at the top of the motherfucking society to be honest with you. Assuming I’m around people of my culture pretty much everyone fucking loves me, people take one look at my face and just think “wealth”. I have a sweet demeanor, I come off as extremely trustworthy and charismatic, right now I do this bummy sales job but I can easily clear five figures a month because people just fucking love me and trust me, I could manipulate the shit out of people if I wanted to but that’s not my personality type.
I can easily seduce atleast half of the women I talk to, too bad I was nerfed at being only a 7-8/10 in looks or so or I would be unstoppable.
But there’s a dark side to being me and that’s that I can’t handle confrontation or fighting for shit, I can easily be manipulated by coercion, I’ve dealt with too many teachers and other authority figures with an authoritarian mindset and all it took was them screaming in my face and scolding me for me to completely submit to their dirty authority.
They would try to instill the idea that my parents were bad people for spoiling me and letting me run the motherfucking house, that I needed the shit kicked out of me because children like me are rotten, spoiled pieces of shit.
I want to keep my charming, sweet, charismatic, seductive, beautiful personality but I also want to be able to hold my fucking own and not let any other dirty motherfucker intimidate me.
I want to gain the ability to absolutely scold the shit out of someone and make them feel like shit if they try to fuck with me.
I also want to raise children 10x more spoiled rotten than I was, they have to be raised in the best house in the best area code in the state, private school only of course. They will never have to be around public school trash. They will get everything they fucking want and if I as a father were to say cheap out on a range rover when they wanted a Ferrari, I deserve to get the shit smacked out of me by my beautiful WASP children.
It seems to me that people become more authoritative as they get older, this creates the ability to “scold” people. (But it’s all just a smoke screen at the end of the day)
Right now, every little ghetto thug looks at me as an upper class white boy who they can bully and intimidate and they are absolutely correct, if I went to a maximum state prison I would probably have my wig split in the first hour.
Tl;dr: I want to be able to have an intimidating authority figure screaming in my face about something (coercion) and not let them give me an adrenaline rush whatsoever. I want to be able to (god forbid) if I had to go to a violent prison type environment be able to hold my own. I want to keep my sweet, friendly demeanor but also gain the ability to physically intimidate people when you’re dealing with rotten types of people who try to force their authority on you.
Is this psychologically possible and if so how can it be done? Does a lot of it have to do with age? (Because let’s be honest, no grown man is scared of even the scariest 13 year old ever)
Please only respond with objective answers from people who actually study psychology. I don’t wanna hear it from people who just want to judge me or give inaccurate information on what they “think”.
Thank you! :)
The way I was raised was very non confrontational and very spoiled. My parents didn’t even make that much money but whether they were trying to or not they raised a high social status WASP type child (who is me).
My parents made sure I got my way at all times, I was the priority of their life from about ages 0-7 until they divorced and we became poor and they unfortunately turned to drugs and the low life where I got to watch my mother become a low status bartender addicted to drugs and we moved into just the most lovely 90% low income Hispanic community!
But even during those dark times the rules between both households were I get my way at all times and if I don’t get my way I can just complain to my parents until they give in. They were nice, friendly, non confrontational people with excellent social skills, too bad drugs literally made them think being around dirty Mexicans in the ghetto was how to live your life.
On a social status level, I am at the top of the motherfucking society to be honest with you. Assuming I’m around people of my culture pretty much everyone fucking loves me, people take one look at my face and just think “wealth”. I have a sweet demeanor, I come off as extremely trustworthy and charismatic, right now I do this bummy sales job but I can easily clear five figures a month because people just fucking love me and trust me, I could manipulate the shit out of people if I wanted to but that’s not my personality type.
I can easily seduce atleast half of the women I talk to, too bad I was nerfed at being only a 7-8/10 in looks or so or I would be unstoppable.
But there’s a dark side to being me and that’s that I can’t handle confrontation or fighting for shit, I can easily be manipulated by coercion, I’ve dealt with too many teachers and other authority figures with an authoritarian mindset and all it took was them screaming in my face and scolding me for me to completely submit to their dirty authority.
They would try to instill the idea that my parents were bad people for spoiling me and letting me run the motherfucking house, that I needed the shit kicked out of me because children like me are rotten, spoiled pieces of shit.
I want to keep my charming, sweet, charismatic, seductive, beautiful personality but I also want to be able to hold my fucking own and not let any other dirty motherfucker intimidate me.
I want to gain the ability to absolutely scold the shit out of someone and make them feel like shit if they try to fuck with me.
I also want to raise children 10x more spoiled rotten than I was, they have to be raised in the best house in the best area code in the state, private school only of course. They will never have to be around public school trash. They will get everything they fucking want and if I as a father were to say cheap out on a range rover when they wanted a Ferrari, I deserve to get the shit smacked out of me by my beautiful WASP children.
It seems to me that people become more authoritative as they get older, this creates the ability to “scold” people. (But it’s all just a smoke screen at the end of the day)
Right now, every little ghetto thug looks at me as an upper class white boy who they can bully and intimidate and they are absolutely correct, if I went to a maximum state prison I would probably have my wig split in the first hour.
Tl;dr: I want to be able to have an intimidating authority figure screaming in my face about something (coercion) and not let them give me an adrenaline rush whatsoever. I want to be able to (god forbid) if I had to go to a violent prison type environment be able to hold my own. I want to keep my sweet, friendly demeanor but also gain the ability to physically intimidate people when you’re dealing with rotten types of people who try to force their authority on you.
Is this psychologically possible and if so how can it be done? Does a lot of it have to do with age? (Because let’s be honest, no grown man is scared of even the scariest 13 year old ever)
Please only respond with objective answers from people who actually study psychology. I don’t wanna hear it from people who just want to judge me or give inaccurate information on what they “think”.
Thank you! :)
