Has a person you dislike ever asked you why you dislike them?

[guest]

I work in software sales at a large startup. Needless to say, it’s filled with some of the most douchey, two-faced, elitist fuckheads you could encounter. People you wouldn’t associate with outside of work in a million years. I know, I picked the job yet I bitch about it. I’m well aware, Dad.

There’s a guy on my team. He means very well and would jump to help you at the drop of the hat. The problem with him is he’s a typical extroverted overly confident moron who speaks WAY more than he listens. This results in him talking over colleagues during meetings, throwing out ideas that make no fucking sense and acting like a civil liberty victim when people don’t match his unwarranted enthusiasm.

There was one day we were in meetings all day and we each were presenting our sales forecasts. He kept interrupting with dumb ideas and asides that weren’t helping. It got to the point where I very nicely but firmly told him during my presentation that he has to stop interrupting otherwise I’d be standing up there all fucking day. He then came up to me during the next break we had and in a fake joking way acted like he was going to beat me up for saying that. I ended up telling him, again nicely, how I felt about his constant interruptions. You could see his face turn red almost as if he was bottling in this rage that was telling him to rip my head off.

It was that day I told myself I’m done trying to tell people how I feel about how they act because they aren’t going to change and most people are way too fucking narcissistic to even process that someone dare say something remotely negative about them. Wasn’t worth it, especially with work faggots who aren’t worth an extra iota of energy.

There are human defense mechanisms that kick in any time someone receives criticism or an individual points out an error in their thinking. Long story short they will come to resent you 99% of the time and possibly try to sabotage you. It's true, there is a lot of value in learning to just fly under the radar and not criticize anybody. Eventually somebody will say what you (and probably everybody else) are thinking, and that person can instead be the target of this petty faggot's retribution.

 

[SoloJoeAcousticShow]

A coworker of mine once had a meltdown on the phone when I pressed him to finish something that he promised yesterday, crunch time kind of shit. He started losing his shit like literally screaming foaming at the mouth about being stressed out and his responsibilities and his team fucking him on things etc. blah blah blah - didn't really listen. I just let him peter out and calmly interrupted when he took a breath saying he should probably just calm down and breathe for a bit, no need to yell, like almost expecting him to crack up right there with me and go "yeah that was really stupid, anyway!" you know like men working on something tend to do when they lose their shit and then swiftly move on.

Well he then apologized profusely, like almost tearfully as if he had commited a great crime.
I just went "dude it's really no big deal, can we just go back to talk about what needs doing and get this over with.."

Next day I had chocolates sitting on my desk like some gay fairy dropped them off with an apologetic note.
I threw the note in the shredder and shared his insincere-apology-chocolates with my coworkers and never brought it up again.

All I'm saying is I don't like this type of coworker and if he ever asked me about it, I'd just pretend to not remember it.
I don't even blame him for it, he probably went through something batshit insane due to his temper. Yelling is now considered ABUSIVE after all.
Still if he pressed a creepy issue like this, I'd go over his head and let superiors know so if he turns out to be the Postal type at least nobody could blame me for it. Never think you can argue your way out of anything with the mentally ill.

 

[TheGhostOfAbeVigoda]

No. But if I catch someone giving me shitty looks I'll ask but I phrase it "you got a fucking problem with me?" And they say no because they're scurred. That's right, kiss my ass, pussy. I don't give a shit if anyone likes me or not but I'm not gonna have some faggot eyeballing me.

I've had people straight up be like "you don't like me, do you?" And I said "nope". If they had asked me to elaborate I would've said "I just don't like you."

I'm actually much nicer than I seem here but if I don't like someone I don't hide it at all. I don't go out of my way to be a prick to them, but I have no problem at all telling someone I don't like that I don't like them.

 

[DMAN]

No. But if I catch someone giving me shitty looks I'll ask but I phrase it "you got a fucking problem with me?" And they say no because they're scurred. That's right, kiss my ass, pussy. I don't give a shit if anyone likes me or not but I'm not gonna have some faggot eyeballing me.

I've had people straight up be like "you don't like me, do you?" And I said "nope". If they had asked me to elaborate I would've said "I just don't like you."

I'm actually much nicer than I seem here but if I don't like someone I don't hide it at all. I don't go out of my way to be a prick to them, but I have no problem at all telling someone I don't like that I don't like them.

The DMAN learned as a youth not to act like this on a job setting especially if you work with a very large team of coworkers, because you're just going to be the enemy. But in his personal life, or any academic point in his life, he carries the same morals you say here. People need their flaws beaten out of them, the only way is to tell them why they suck. Some can take constructive critcism.

The DMAN has never been into fashion, he used to wear khaki pants like any other pants. Until one day he was shamed for his khakis. And on that day, the khakis were retired. You won't find any tan pants in The DHOUSE. However, cargo shorts get a bad rep from bitter women, which The DMAN doesn't listen to their opinions anyway so cargos are a Do this season. Khakis are a Don't.

 

[Turk February]

Then get upset when you tell them the truth?

Do people think their lives are a movie where nobody is honest?

Hope you're all having a great weekend.

The biggest beef I've had with a guy in recent years is I told him he's a bad writer and his work processes is all wrong. He threatened to murder me and wouldn't talk to me 9 hours a day at work. He was my neighbour too. Extremely uncomfortable. I bought his book though, it's really funny.

 

[Cptbaldopie]

The DMAN learned as a youth not to act like this on a job setting especially if you work with a very large team of coworkers, because you're just going to be the enemy. But in his personal life, or any academic point in his life, he carries the same morals you say here. People need their flaws beaten out of them, the only way is to tell them why they suck. Some can take constructive critcism.

The DMAN has never been into fashion, he used to wear khaki pants like any other pants. Until one day he was shamed for his khakis. And on that day, the khakis were retired. You won't find any tan pants in The DHOUSE. However, cargo shorts get a bad rep from bitter women, which The DMAN doesn't listen to their opinions anyway so cargos are a Do this season. Khakis are a Don't.

I wear khaki cargo pants and thats no joke.

 

[Cptbaldopie]

The biggest beef I've had with a guy in recent years is I told him he's a bad writer and his work processes is all wrong. He threatened to murder me and wouldn't talk to me 9 hours a day at work. He was my neighbour too. Extremely uncomfortable. I bought his book though, it's really funny.

Sounds familiar.

 

[TravisPickle]

Im waiting for my dumbass boss to ask me why I obviously dislike her. Its going to be a rough-go not blurting out "I dont know, you're a fuckin dumb bitch?"

 

[Bam's Feet]

The DMAN learned as a youth not to act like this on a job setting especially if you work with a very large team of coworkers, because you're just going to be the enemy. But in his personal life, or any academic point in his life, he carries the same morals you say here. People need their flaws beaten out of them, the only way is to tell them why they suck. Some can take constructive critcism.

The DMAN has never been into fashion, he used to wear khaki pants like any other pants. Until one day he was shamed for his khakis. And on that day, the khakis were retired. You won't find any tan pants in The DHOUSE. However, cargo shorts get a bad rep from bitter women, which The DMAN doesn't listen to their opinions anyway so cargos are a Do this season. Khakis are a Don't.

Never owned a pair of khaki's in my life. Nikki's Mansized Footster is a strictly jeans and dress pants man